· By Mr. Sim · ~2 min read
The Grandparent Who Has Lost the Grandchild: A South African Christian's Guide to the Unspoken Grief
The Grandparent Who Has Lost the Grandchild: A South African Christian's Guide to the Unspoken Grief
The Scene
The grandchild died at three months. The funeral was small. The family has moved on. The grandparent in Alberton has returned to the Wednesday Bible study but has not said a word in six months.
Psalm 34:18 — *"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."*
The South African Christian in the situations described above is not alone. The Bible has been speaking to these situations for two thousand years. The Wednesday Bible study in Parkmore has been hearing these passages read, discussed, and applied for ten years. What follows is a distillation of what the Bible says and what we have learned from the journey.
The Grief That Has No Name
The Bible does not rank grief. The Bible says: 'Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted' (Matthew 5:4). The mourning is valid. The comfort will come.
What the Bible Says About Loss
The Bible is the book of grief. 'How long, Lord? Will you forget me forever?' (Psalm 13:1). The grieving Christian is a Christian who is holding faith while everything else has been taken away.
Walking with the Grieving Grandparent
What the grieving grandparent needs to hear is: 'I am here. I am not going anywhere. Tell me about them.'
Practical Ways to Support the Grieving Grandparent
Name the grandchild. Remember the anniversaries. Do not try to fix the grief. Invite the grandparent to share a memory. Keep praying.
A Prayer for the Grandparent Who Has Lost a Grandchild
Father, we bring the grief that has no name. Hold the grandchild close to you. Hold the grandparent close to us. Amen.
A Closing Prayer
Father, we bring this struggle to you. We ask for your wisdom, your strength, and your presence. We ask for the community to hold us. We ask for the hope that does not disappoint. Amen.
*Johannesburg Bible Study Church meets online every Wednesday at 7:30pm for a Bible study that is intentionally local and biblically grounded. The Bible study is free, open to anyone, and free to join or to leave. Call Mr. Sim on +27 77 487 1295 or Ms. Dora on +27 67 442 4461.*
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